Kaye's Life and other gems

Neil Finn’s lyrics in Distant Sun

What’s a song lyric that has stuck with you forever?

The song lyric that stays with me forever comes from the heart of Neil Finn in the Crowded House song Distant Sun 🌞. It is as follows

“I don’t pretend to know what you want but I offer love”. It is a lyric filled with meaning, compassion and love. Neil has written many love songs 🎵 and Distant Sun sticks out because it is about universal love. Neil is my absolute favourite songwriter and he is loved and respected for his beautiful songwriting.

Biggest Dream

What’s your biggest dream?

My biggest dream is to own a couple of children’s literature shops here in Melbourne and also in Auckland New Zealand. I would like to live at Barwon Heads and have a home in Parnell Auckland and have some connections to Sam Neill’s Two Paddocks vineyard at Central Otago near Dunedin on the south island of New Zealand. I would like to not have mental health issues and divide my time between Melbourne and Auckland. I would live a very peaceful and contented life and maintain good relationships with my brothers and my nieces and nephews ❤️ 💕 ♥️.

Seeing into her soul

As I sit or lye beside Lily i look tenderly into her beautiful eyes 😍 🤩 and I swear that her eyes are a window or mirror 🪞 into her soul. How anybody could be cruel to such creatures upsets me. Dogs definitely have a soul that I wrote about in a past post 📫 A Dog’s Soul. My ex husband used to say that heaven wasn’t for dumb animals, no wonder with that sort of attitude that our marriage didn’t last. In my heaven we are reunited with all the pets we had loved on earth 🌎 and I know looking into Lily’s eyes 👀 that our love and souls are destined to be together forever, that she will be beside me on my souls next lifetime and adventures.

I ask everyone who has a dog to softly glance into their eyes 👀 and see their soul, one of life’s most meaningful experiences

A promise made

What’s a promise you made to yourself that you’ve actually kept?

There is a promise that I have made that I’ve actually kept and that is to honour Susanna’s wishes to my dying days.

Susanna in the last year of her life was concerned about the impact of worrying about Diana and her children was negatively impacting upon my mental health 🙏🏽 and begged me to cut off contact with them for my own well-being. It is a promise I have kept and intend to keep to my last day’s to honour Susanna’s wishes. Susanna’s advice to me came from a very good place and she was the absolute best friend in my life. My mental health issues are a lot better now I don’t have Diana’s train wreck dramas in my life. Susanna could see how draining it all was for me and it definitely was the right thing for my well-being to walk away from that drama and put my own welfare first.

BLANE MCDONOUGH

If you could have dinner with any fictional character, who would it be?

If I could have dinner with any fictional character it would be with Blane McDonough the character Andrew McCarthy played in the movie Pretty In Pink. I would like to be younger than I am now, because I would like to be Andie Walsh the character Molly Ringwald played in that movie Pure teenage fangirl stuff. Sometimes it is OK to have pure fantasy stuff.

Definitely Lily

What is the best purchase you have ever made?

Definitely Lily was the best purchase I ever made, buying her as a puppy. She is n investment that i reap rewards in many times over. Because I don’t have children she is my furbaby.

YouTube clips

What app eats up most of your screen time — and do you even feel bad about it?

The app that says up most of my screen time is scrolling through clips on YouTube and I don’t feel bad about it. I have a playlist of music 🎶 🎵 clips on YouTube that I use as therapy and it works very well. I love watching all sorts of things on YouTube. It feels good.

The need for ECT

I have just received a message from a long term friend asking me what I know about ECT, and whether i personally have received ECT. Luckily my experience of schizophrenia has never included the requirement of ECT. I know my psychiatrist does recommend that for some of his patients, normally for severe depression that isn’t responding to antidepressants . He is wise and diligent when he recommends that treatment. I feel blessed 🙌 😇 🙏🏽 that I have never needed it but know it can be very effective at recalibrating the mind in those with severe depression. I often get asked from friends different questions related to the treatment of mental health issues and always have empathy and compassion for those asking me and their loved ones. Navigating through the journey of mental health issues is my life purpose and when my friends need it i offer kindness, support and understanding from a unique perspective. I pray 🙏🏽 for my friend and her family as they navigate through what must seem like walking in a minefield of the mental health system. There but for the grace of God go i. I am always ready to quietly listen 🎶 and support someone on their journey. Such is life.

What shapes us

Do you think we’re shaped more by our experiences or by who we are?

I think to a certain extent we,are shaped by genetics and who we are. We are all born with a personality that to begin with is shaped by our genetics.

I also believe that our experiences shape who we become, as we are all on an individual journey each with our own experiences and learning. I may share some similarities to my family, but my journey has been totally different to any of my family. My experience of mental health issues has shaped the person I have become and made me a totally different person to my other family members. Because I am an intensely private person and don’t share my personal pain with a lot of people, except for some pretty wonderful friends, my friends see me in a totally different light to my family. So yes our experiences do play a major part in who we become on our journey

Lily for a week

If you had to be an animal for a week, which one would you be and why?

If I had to be any animal for a week I would like to be my dog Lily to better understand how she perceives the world 🌎. I would love to know how and what she thinks and feels from her perspective. I have an amazing bond with her, but would love to better understand her.