Midnight Oils music

What’s a cultural tradition from your country that you love?

I love the Australian culture of our local music scene . In my younger years I saw Crowded House, Split Enz,  Hunters and Collectors and Weddings Parties Anything so many times.  The culture i wish I had experienced would have been of an age that was old enough to have experienced Midnight Oil live when they were doing the pub and surf club gigs. I feel left out as I really loved Midnight Oils music and knew that seeing them live would have been a powerful all encompassing experience.   I loved that Midnight Oil were a passionate band that stayed loyal to the 🎵 songs they wrote about nuclear disarmament,  the environment and indigenous issues. They spoke about uncomfortable truths and become part of the Australian vernacular.  I must admit a big part of my attraction to Midnight Oil was definitely perving on Rob Hirst. Unfortunately seeing Midnight Oil was something that will be missing from my bucket list. RIP Rob Hirst you humble 🙏🏽 amazing legend.

Sometimes it is better to come from a broken home than to live in one.

The title of today’s blog post is a direct quote i said to my friend Adrian this morning when we were discussing friends,  family and life in general.  Adrian asked if he could quote me on that because he knew some people that could apply to.

I think of my friend whose married life where her and her children were experiencing a total train wreck of a life because she lacked the emotional intelligence to get her shit together and move her children from that nightmare all because she didn’t want her kids to come from a broken home. The fact that the entire family were living a nightmare never occurred to her, and she was probably the weakest unemotionally intelligent woman i ever knew. Susanna tried to give this lady support until she realised exactly how screwed up this person was.

In the end both Susanna and myself had to walk away from this family when caring for someone with a complete lack of emotional intelligence became bad for the mental health of Susanna and myself.  People these days don’t have to stay in relationships that are dangerously unhealthy and I understand totally that some people feel unable to leave, thinking staying is the easier option than leaving. A lot of women wake up one day and realise they don’t want the rest of their life to be monotonously unhappy and that is probably the best move to make for the family’s sake because yes sometimes it is better to come from a broken home than to live in one and some of the strongest ladies  i have met are those who put their bad marital circumstances behind them and started a new life with their children’s well-being as their priority.

Meeting Lily for the first time

If you could relive one day from your past, which day would it be and why?

If I could live one day of my life over and over again it would be seeing Lily for the first time when she was just a tiny puppy.  It was one of the happiest days of my life and I would love that feeling of growing love again.

The day i certainly would not want to live again would be my wedding day.  Had I known what that would ultimately mean for my life I would never have married my ex husband.

A Dogs Journey

What’s the last movie that made you cry?

The last movie that made me cry was a movie I saw many years ago with Susanna.  That movie was A Dogs Journey and it is the sequel to A Dogs Purpose.   As with all dog movies it is beautiful with moments of pure joy and pure sadness. Susanna was battling cancer at the time and part of the storyline was that Dogs can be taught to detect cancer in humans and can know how to let the medical practitioners know what they sense. Susanna and I bawled our eyes 👀 out at this and it was particularly difficult for Susanna because of her cancer battle and the fact that months earlier her own dog had passed over.   It is an amazing movie that I think every dog lover should she, but definitely with a box of tissues at hand.

Terrorism attacks including the 9/11 attacks

If you could erase one event from history, what would it be?

If I could erase something from history it would be the prevalence of terrorism in our modern society,  including the 9/11 bombing attacks. I pray 🙏🏽 🤲 for world 🌎 peace and an end to religion becoming something that is divisive and causes wars and violence . I pray 🙏🏽 f or peace in the middle east and the beginning of a new world 🌎 where paece is enshrined and an end to man’s inhumanity to man.

My psychiatrist is brilliant,  compassionate and empathetic.

I had an appointment this week with my psychiatrist and I have been on a natural  high ever since.

I am used to my psychiatrist being positive and compassionate but he surprised me with a very big compliment.  He told me that I am his most highly functioning patient with my diagnosis.  He said I am so highly functioning that I understand so much about my condition and that in his opinion I live a very good normal life.  This compliment was just what I needed to hear because for the last several months my life has been a series of curve  balls that though challenging I have coped well with. I always feel good when I offload to my psychiatrist because he has empathy and compassion by the truckload.

Cathy Kelly or Janet Frame

Which author would you love to have dinner with?

There are two c authors I would love to have dinner with. Pure fantasy I would love to have dinner with Cathy Kelly and I would’ve loved to have had dinner with Janet Frame whilst she was still alive.

Cathy Kelly is my favourite author of chick literature and she always seems so warm, interesting and intriguing.  Janet Frame was one of New Zealand’s famous authors,  who lived with the same mental illness as me, and still managed to live an amazing life as a award winning author.  Thank God she never received the lobotomy the medical practitioners had planned for her.  Thank God she went on to be an amazing author and that lobotomies eventually were made illegal.  The world 🌎 is a better place without having lobotomies.