No One But Lily Owns Me.

Last week I lost a friend. Yes it is really sad and unfortunate, but as I said in a previous post, everyone comes into our life for a reason, and for some it is only for a season.

I am sad and mourn the loss of that friendship, but I think that it was a friendship with a use by date, because recently that person had showed me that they were becoming more and more possessive of me, and not taking it well when I occasionally had to say no to this person, because of other commitments and relationships in my life.

If life has taught me anything it is that no one gets to “own” me. I am a bit of a free spirit who walked away from a controlling, possessive husband, who ended up cheating on me. It took alot of time and effort, to move on from that, but I did. The friendships I have now, with males included are on a whole different level, we ❤️ love and trust one another and there is no ownership of one another. We respect boundaries and are there for each other. The whole pandemic made me value my friends even more, because of the extensive lockdowns we had here in Melbourne, so I value my long term relationships even more, because absence mskes the heart grow fonder. Lockdown did make me aware of that

There is only one person in my life that gets to be possessive of me, and she has fur, four legs and a tail. Lily can be as possessive of me as she likes, because the sort of way she is possessive is just soo cute, in a dog. Yes she is actively possessive of me and I just love ❤️ how much she loves me. She owns me and is my little best friend.

Wanting to own someone is cute in a dog 🐕, but wanting to own another human being can be a bit too needy or uncomfortable to live with in the long term.

The season of that particular friendship may have come to a sad end, but it has also made me realise I maintain several wonderful friendships that bring me great love and joy, and I value that lost friendship of having been beautiful whilst it lasted. As spring moves into summer, so does my life progress and change.