GO WHERE YOU ARE CELEBRATED NOT TOLERATED.

Yesterday a support worker I know offered me some pearls of wisdom. I was talking to her about a true friend who risked her own job to come out in support of me, in a past work situation, in which I was being bullied and treated terribly.

This support worker was very warm and engaging and she let me in on something she always advises her children to do and that advice is to go where we are celebrated 🍾 not tolerated. These words were offered to me with a sense of empathy and understanding. How many times ⏲ in life do we stay in hurtful, unhealthy relationships or situations purely because we feel we have to, out of sone sort of obligation to ourselves, our loved ones, our employer etc etc.

I know in the past I have stayed in situations that have been totally toxic for me, because I felt obligated to certain people or certain employers. It has run me into the ground staying in such circumstances and always causes my mental health issues to flare up. What is even worse is that in some of my past jobs or relationships I was celelbrated to begin with, and then treated badly afterwards, when I showed my vulnerability, and was no longer seen as a useful asset. I know I stayed in one particular job, many years past it’s use by date because I felt obligated to this employer and needed the work for financial reasons. It nearly totally destroyed me, and if it were not for this particular friend, supporting me and risking her own job to stand up for me, God knows where I would be today.

Luckily in my last position in mental health I really had a boss who celebrated 🍾 my lived experience and made working a pleasure for me. I know how good it feels when you are in the position of being 🍾 celebrated and will no longer accept anything less, both in my professional and personal life.

My advice to anyone would be to trust your instincts and if your gut feeling isn’t great and you feel you are merely being tolerated and not being celebrated for who or what you are, don’t be afraid to speak up and get the hell out of that situation before it impacts on your life negatively. It is far more emotionally healthy to leave and walk away than endure the emotional pain or trauma that staying in that situation will bring to you. If you are worried about what you will lose by standing up or walking away, please remember that good karma generates good karma. There will be another position, another friend etc etc in your future. To the employer or friend that merely tolerates you I give you some other pearls of wisdom I was given years ago. It is Time Wounds All Heels….I guess that is saying that Karma exists in the universe. Learn to stay and love being where you are celebrated 🍾 enjoy it and put where you are merely tolerated down to life experience. If we learn along thr way that when life offers us 🍋 lemons, we make lemonade, we are bringing good karma into out life, 🍾 celebrate the enjoyment of people who appreciate you, they make life all the more richer.