The qualities of friends I value the most..

What quality do you value most in a friend?

As I think about the blog topic today, I think of Susanna, the most honest,  loyal, and loving person I have ever met.. She embodied friendship with her honesty and loyalty.  Even Lily, my little dog, is my best friend 🧑  with her loyal, loving nature.  Dogs are always honest. They are not capable of being  dishonest. To me, honesty and loyalty are the qualities of a true friend and go hand in hand. I value the friends who are honest and straightforward with me.  I respect that. If a friend is being dishonest with you,  for whatever reason,  they are not being a friend.  Honesty is a big part of loyalty.  Friendships that survive have a basis of love, honesty, and loyalty.

Treating Lily with a little TLC and a new toy.

Today, I appreciate my Little Lily even more than usual and have given her a new toy. My beautiful little dog πŸ• is very loving and loyal and sometimes misunderstood.  Yesterday, Lily was very misjudged, and I am sad at how we were both treated by someone who should know better. I had a new cleaner come to my place yesterday, and because he was male and a stranger, Lily was barking at him, doing what she thinks is her job.  The funny thing is I live beside a dog groomer and and one of the groomers came out to tell me off at Lily barking.   I am used to dogs barking from these groomers.  It was funny, really, a dog groomer where dogs make noise all the time, with no complaints from me. Lily wasn’t barking for an excessive amount of time. She was just doing her job, protecting me from strangers. It is sad but absurd that this even happened.  Lily is such a loyal little companion and would be upset for me if she was capable of understanding what she had done wrong . Which she hadn’t,  so today  I am cuddling her a little closer and treating her with some TLC.

CHOOSE HAPPINESS

I had a very interesting conversation with my friend Adrian today. We were talking about the deaf blind lady who appears on The Piano 🎹 here in Australia πŸ‡¦πŸ‡Ί.Β  She was remarkably talented and was an inspirationΒ  because she was optimistic about herself and was choosing to be happy despite her disabilities.

It made Adrian agree that happiness is a definite choice. We can choose to view our life through a positive lens. Choosing to be positive makes life all the more remarkable and meaningful. Happiness can also be like an act of defiance against the circumstances or experiences set to challenge us. Whenever negative thoughts set im, I counterbalance it by doing something positive or by spreading goodwill to loved ones.  This, to me, is empowering, and positivity breeds positivity.  It was a lesson Susanna helped me learn.  Being positive in the face of adversity is a skill we should all work on. Everything we project comes back to us threefold tge law of attraction tells us. Be inspired and humbled by those who seem to have more challenges than us, but who greet the sun every day with a smile πŸ˜ƒ.

What am I good at.

What are you good at?

I have already answered this question last year, focusing on my empathy and compassion. I think I am very good at being switched on to people, particularly people in need of support, empathy, and a bit of positivity in a dark world 🌎.Β  I understand that we all as humans need to be validated and affirmed.Β  Some of my friends say that I am a huge positive force to be reckoned with.Β  I try to fill my loved 😍 ones’ lives with positive affirmations and to make them feel that they are the wonderful human beings who deserve some recognition of how good they are. I look for the good in people, and the celebrities I most admire are those doing good in the world 🌎 without seeking accolades.

I guess I am good at endeavouring to be a good friend, sister, etc. I form close soul bonds with people, eg, Susanna, Lani, etc. I don’t take these relationships for granted, and if there is anything I have learned from Susannas legacy, it is to be the loving bearer of good tidings for all. Susanna led by example, and now I am doing the same.

I guess I am good at recognising the human condition and try to give my loved 😍 ones the support they need in their life.

What am I good at?  I will let my friends 🧑 and loved ones let me know what they think are my strengths.  I do try to lead a life where I grow and learn from my mistakes. I think I am good at becoming more wise on my journey of life.

THE PIANO continued……..

The more that I binge watch The Piano 🎹 the more I absolutely adore it. It is the most beautiful 😍 and genuinely moving television πŸ“Ί I have seen in quite a while.   If you haven’t seen it, you can catch the entire series on ABC iview. I think Harry Connick Jnr and Andrea Lam, and Amanda Keller did such a wonderful job . I don’t want to give out any spoiler alerts because I want you to watch it and be very pleasantly surprised by what you see. It makes me a proud Australian that our national broadcaster can produce such good entertainment.

Who would I like to talk to soon

Who would you like to talk to soon?

The last time I answered this post πŸ“« I said I would like to talk to Neil Finn  and also talk to someone about supported social housing.Β  This has progressed over the last 12 months.Β  I am now on the waiting list for social housing close to where I already live.Β  I would like to talk to Mind the mental support service who is building the housing to make sure I am on top of the waiting list.Β  I pray πŸ™πŸ½ all the time that this works out, so I am really talking to God about this, making sure God knows how important this is to me.

I would still like to talk to Neil Finn, being a fan of course I would like to talk to him.Β  I would love to have a cuppa and a chat with Scott Aplin,Β  Harry Connick Jnr, Andrea Lam, and Amanda Keller about the series The Piano because it is so good that it is absolutely mind blowing.Β  I think I will always want to meet Scott Aplin because of how nice to me he was when I have had contact with him in the past.

The other person I would like to talk to is Sam Reid, the actor who played Dale Jennings in The Newsreader.   Sam appears to be quite shy and introverted in interviews I have seen with him, and that makes him all the more charming and interesting.

My collections

Do you have any collections?

I have several collections.

I have a large collection of books, particularly those by Cathy Kelly,Β  Janet Frame and Graeme Base.

I have a large record collection, comprising of vinyl records and compact discs,  a lot of Australian music 🎢 from the 80s and onwards.

I have a collection of teddy 🧸 bears and antique tea cups and saucers.

I have a collection angel things, eg, angel Oracle cards and ornaments.   When I move house in the not too distant future, I plan to make angels the theme of my home..

Don’t like cold weather

How do you feel about cold weather?

We are heading into winter here in Melbourne, and I am not enjoying it. It has been freezing here the last few mornings πŸŒ„ and I have not wanted to get out of bed. I hope I can acclimatise soon, so I can walk up Lily around 7.30 am.  The last few days, I have walked πŸšΆβ€β™‚οΈ her later, but I know I need to get used to the cold weather. In Melbotrne, I love late spring and early autumn πŸ‚.  I dread winter.  It is true here in Melbourne that we have four seasons in one day.

Work from home

How do you balance work and home life?

How I balance work and home 🏑 life is to work from home. Now that I no longer travel great distances to work in mental health, I can work from home and not leave Lily for hours on end.

Being a writer now means I can work from home with Lily beside me as I work. She is a placid contented πŸ’• little soul now that I don’t leave her for hours on end. It is quiet and peaceful to work from home and I no longer travel on noisy crowded public transport,Β  because of that I no longer constantly battle colds and flu, like I did when I was always on public transport.

If you are seeking a more peaceful, quiet life,do try if possible to work from home. Your pets will thrive with you around. Separation anxiety will be a thing of the past.

James D

Today is the birthday πŸŽ‚ πŸ₯³ of someone whom I have many good memories of. His name is James, and he was the great love ❀️ 😍 of my life when I was in my early 30s . We met studying welfare  studies, and we both had mental health issues. He was my best friend 🧑 for several years, and although my feelings for him weren’t reciprocated, he was a thorough gentleman about it and a true friend. We drifted apart because I became too pushy, and I regret losing his friendship. It was a harsh lesson for me not to force rhings to happen. If things are meant to happen, they will. I treasure my memories of him. No, James wasn’t the person I ended up marrying, but he definitely was the great love of my life. My ex-husband was someone I settled for that I cared deeply about, but the love ❀️ of my life was James. Wherever he is in the world 🌎 now, I hope he is happy