Choose your behaviuor well

If there is anything I have learned in this life, it is that we all choose how we behave  so try to always choise wisely.

Whenever I am faced with a conundrum or difficulty i choose to pause and to contemplate before I respond.  When I was younger and didnt have wisdom I made a few poor choices,  thankfully nothing really bad and in hindsight I learned my wisdom from those experiences.  It was when I was younger that a few people in my life weren’t sincere good people. Thankfully now I don’t have such people in my life. My ex husband was someone who made poor choices and tried to play the victim. He blamed his poor choices and ultimate bad results from his behaviour on everyone else including myself, his other friends or family or the church etc etc.  He would choose to make poor choices but then apportion blame elsewhere.  Needless to say his life was in constant turmoil and that meant he was constantly mentally unwell and never having the insight as to how his reactions affected his mental health and stability.  I learned a lot throughout my marriage,  but the gave me the wisdom that I have now and understand that we all choose how we behave. I had in my past a “friend” whose life was a total train wreck,  whose children had endured the very worst of abuse at the hands of their father  My so called friend was draning with constant dramas in her life, she was sucking my energy like a vampire and she was incapable of making wise decisions for her children. Worrying about that family caused a return of my mental health issues,  but at least now I have learned that nothing is worth worrying about so much that it impacts my mental health.  Again God taught me with that experience that if we are wise and intelligent we choose our behaviour well. I have learned to not be reactionary and that we have different lessons to learn on our journey. There but for the Grace of God Go I, so I practice wisdom and not judgement.