The judgemental question

There is one question I often get asked that I really dislike.  That question is ” Do you have kids”.  I have been asked that question so many times and I dread how my answer of “No” will be received.

I was asked that question a lot in my late 20s and early 30s by friends of my sister inlaw.   When I would answer that question with “no I don’t have kids, these women would instantly judge me as being not worthwhile and would stop talking to me,like I had told them I had the plague.   I married later in life and then had fertility issues and then a marriage breakdown,  so children obviously aren’t a part of Gods plan for my life.  I don’t like how judgemental some people can be about women not having children.   Not every in life is blessed with children of their own,and I don’t believe that childless people are inferior in any way.  Empathy towards childless women is rare. I am still an interesting, compassionate woman, and I feel not having children doesn’t define me.  I am still an interesting person.  I do feel I have missed out, as a woman,  though never having experienced pregnancy or childbirth, but I see now that God has other plans for my life. Such is life.